Lets talk about Heartbreak

Ramon weatherall sr (00:00.31)

This is the Raising Carter podcast and I'm your host Ramon Weatherall Senior and the Raising Carter podcast is a podcast dedicated to fathers, fathers with sons. But I got a question for you, we gonna get right into it.

Would you rather?

get beat up in a fight, or...

get your heart broke. Now, when I say get beat up in a fight, I don't mean get straight beat down or you're in like ICU or something. I mean, you know, kind of how Terrence Crawford beat up on boy, you know.

like that, get beat up like that. Which one would you rather pick? Dads, because your sons, you, we're talking to the dads right now. Which one would you rather pick dad? Would you rather get beat up in a fight?

Ramon weatherall sr (00:59.372)

Or would you rather...

Get your heart broke.

And I asked a lot of guys, and after they got done splaining.

Most of them said, I'd rather get beat up in a fight because getting your heart broke is probably one of the, is one of the worst things that can happen to a man. Cause we love on a different level. If you love a woman enough for her to break your heart.

Man, that's something, that's something that.

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is traumatizing, like it's not something easy to deal with. And I think if that's the case, then why aren't more fathers talking to their sons about this? If you'd rather get beat up.

then get your heart broke. Shouldn't that be something you talking to your son about?

Shouldn't that be something you talking to your son about?

But we don't, we don't do it. My father didn't do it for me. I mean, I was a grown man and I was having issues with my oldest son's mother still, she still doing her thing, causing, you know, doing her thing, causing problems in a, you know, in my new relationship, actually the relationship I, you know,

The relationship I'm in now, the woman I'm married to causing problems with that. And I asked my father something about it. Just, man, you know, damn, you know, just... I didn't have the answers. I needed to, you know, I didn't know. He kind of brung it up and he started to say something. He was like, I would do this. Then he stopped. And he just went on talking about something else. I'm like...

Ramon weatherall sr (03:11.398)

You know what I'm saying? I want to know what he was gonna say, even if I disagree with it.

He just stopped and went on to something else. Don't do that. Because after that, I just felt like, well, I can't ask you nothing, man. You know? And I really honestly haven't really asked him much since. Because when your son needs you, whether he's five or 45, you gotta be there, man.

Ramon weatherall sr (03:48.906)

I'm looking, man, you gotta be there. If you can hear my voice, if you can see my eyes, I'm telling you, when he needs you, no matter how old he is, how old you are, you have to be there. For him, not for you, not giving your own personal fucking opinion about shit. Like you ain't never had no issues, like nobody ever hurt you, like you was always on top. No, you, stop it.

Stop it.

help him because he needs you because if you don't he might handle things the wrong way and get himself into some trouble that he can't get out or some trouble that he's really got to face some hard consequences for when because you just didn't want to answer the question or you just you know you just missed you know you just dropped the ball you know and you

Ramon weatherall sr (04:53.358)

some proof to you, a video to show you that I'm sure a lot of people seen or heard but we gonna run it back because people need to see this. Check this out.

Ramon weatherall sr (07:32.819)

Well, one thing you did wrong is asking women what you did wrong.

That's one thing you should know that you asking, you know, you asking the opposition what you did wrong. What you did wrong was brother.

is that

You obviously weren't picking up on the signs if this woman really liked you or not.

Ramon weatherall sr (08:06.482)

At this age, at his age, you should be able to tell if someone likes you or not, if someone's digging you or not. You know? If they're not playing games with you or not.

Was she confirming, was she going back, you know, was she acting excited about the dates you were going? Was she asking you questions? Was she, you know, telling you about how she was getting ready? Was she doing any of that? Or were you doing all the talking about the date? Were you initiating all the conversations about the date? And she wasn't initiating any conversations about the date. That should have told you something right there, that you was gonna get stood up, that it wasn't gonna happen.

Ramon weatherall sr (08:49.582)

They're grown men that are right now going and working with relationship coaches and all this stuff. Which, hey man, get your money. But ain't that what you're supposed to be, ain't that what dads are supposed to be for? Ain't that what we supposed to do, help you with this stuff? So you got some game, you got some, you know, some knowledge about women. You can ask us stuff. It ain't that what, but.

Dads, we driving the ball. People complain, talk about marriages and you see all this stuff on the internet, all the time how marriages, I seen divorce lawyers talking all this game about how marriages, why would you get into it? And it's a 58% divorce rate and probably all the way up to 75% are the people that are married, but they're actually divorced. They just living together just because they don't wanna give up half their stuff.

It's not marriage isn't the problem. It's the problem is that we don't know how to pick someone to be with. That's the problem.

Ramon weatherall sr (10:03.838)

No one teaches us how to pick anybody to spend our lives with. No one, you don't know. So you go in it picking somebody just because they look good or because they got, you know, it's a man, he's got a lot of money. You know, a woman pick, he's got a lot of money. Or, you know, a guy, we don't really care about money. So we just pick the girl who looks the best, who's the sexiest, you know, who we want to have sex with.

but she's not the woman you should marry. You probably met the woman you wanted to marry. You probably met her. You probably broken up with her. You probably dumped her.

Ramon weatherall sr (10:49.762)

You probably mistreated her somewhere along down the line. You're not with her anymore. That was the one you wanted to, you should have married. The person you want to marry is the person that's gonna give you the best life. The person that you're gonna have the best life with. Not the sexiest, not the, you know, the most exciting or whatever. No, who are you gonna have the best life with? That's the person you marry. That's the person you,

Ramon weatherall sr (11:23.813)

you get into a relationship with to see if it can go farther, but we don't pick that person. We don't pick them.

We don't even think about that. See, so yeah, that lawyer that I seen on TikTok talking all that crap, yeah, you're a divorce lawyer. You making money. If you were so upset about the divorce rate and doing all this, why are you a divorce lawyer? That's what you do. You know what I mean? That's what you making money about. I don't care how bad you think it is and how stupid you think it is, you know? It don't matter if you just

being in a relationship, you living with somebody, you can pick the wrong person there and be in, you know, going through hell with that. It don't matter, just don't throw it all in the lap of marriage. If you do not know how to pick someone.

Ramon weatherall sr (12:24.654)

to be with whether you're married in a committed relationship, dating, it doesn't matter. You're gonna end up on the short end of the stick. You are doomed.

And fathers, we have to help our sons with this.

Ramon weatherall sr (12:46.89)

and stop chasing women. Stop chasing women, stop. Man, every live on TikTok, a man is talking about relationships.

Ramon weatherall sr (13:05.046)

I just wanna ask, man, are you in a relationship? Why y'all listening to people who ain't in relationships? You listen to some live, some dude or some female talking about relationship. Well, how is their relationship? You know, how can you talk to me about what you should do in a relationship and you not in one?

Ramon weatherall sr (13:30.734)

Stop chasing women, I got a video for you. I got a video, a good video for you that can help you, that you need to hear, you need to see. Because we need to stop chasing women. The right woman for you is gonna appreciate your ambition. It's gonna appreciate you never wanting to give up. See, I got the I will never give up hat on. She gonna appreciate that.

She's not going, it's not going, everything is not going to be all about her.

Ramon weatherall sr (15:58.611)

So it is.

Ramon weatherall sr (16:24.358)

I couldn't get the video to play but basically...

Ramon weatherall sr (16:29.918)

In the video, he's saying that it's wallow for a million dollars worth of game. He's saying, nowadays women want you to chase them like you chase your dreams. And that's backwards.

That's backwards, man, because there aren't any bunk beds in the graveyard. Nobody, like my father used to tell me, nobody's going, you going down in that hole by yourself. So why are you caring what somebody, everybody else think? Why are you doing what everybody else wants you to do? You better, you better make decisions.

based upon what you want to do and what you are prepared to live with. You prepared to live with and you prepared to die with.

Ramon weatherall sr (17:25.666)

but there ain't no bunk beds in the graveyard. You going in that hole by yourself. I don't care how much you love everybody you love, you going in there by yourself.

Ramon weatherall sr (17:38.666)

So dads, we gotta teach our sons to love themselves more than anybody else, more than a woman. Yes, one day we all would like to see our sons with a great woman and have grandchildren and all of that. But first and foremost, they gotta love themselves else they not gonna know how to pick someone who loves them too.

Ramon weatherall sr (18:11.74)

Nobody's gonna love you if you don't love yourself. Think about it. The people who constantly put themselves down.

Yeah, you get a few people that'll pick them up and say, hey, you know, don't do that to yourself. But eventually people gonna get tired of that and be like, you know what? I get tired of.

listening to this person constantly put themselves down, not believing them, they just, you know, they're just a downer, they just, I don't wanna be around them. They're negative and they're not gonna be around you. You're gonna be alone. That's why there are so many men that are alone, that aren't, they're just like invisible. Like they're not there.

They're invisible at work. They live alone at home.

they're invisible because

Ramon weatherall sr (19:10.902)

They lack self-confidence. More than likely, some woman has divorced them or left them and they haven't bounced back from it. If you really dig down and see why this person, this guy is like that, he's probably back to being hurt by, you know, maybe Kigari back to his mother. But a lot of times it's because they were with a woman and-

she broke their heart.

Ramon weatherall sr (19:46.79)

And that's difficult to come back from.

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and not everybody can do it. So, fathers, there's no way to prepare him for that, but you gotta be talking to him about it. You can't just say, you like girls? Oh, that's good. That's good enough. No, it's way deeper than that. It's way deeper than that. You gotta get way deeper than that, fathers, you know? If you can.

Cause some of us, we might, you might not be able to do just because you.

No one ever talked to you. And you going through your own thing right now. But if you don't want him to go through, if you don't want your son to go through, difficult time. Like I said, if you would rather get beat up, then get your heart broke. This is a conversation we need to have, son.

an ongoing conversation. So that is this episode of the Raising Carter podcast, of the Raising Carter podcast.

that's dedicated to fathers, fathers with sons, talking about serious, important issues and just showing you just how important you are.

Ramon weatherall sr (21:22.11)

You are important. Your son needs you.

from the cradle to the grave, man. It don't stop. So.

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Ramon Weatherall, I am your host, Ramon Weatherall Sr. We have a part two of this podcast with my son asking Carter about relationships, seven year old, you know, what he thinks about relationships because I'm not gonna ask you to do something that I'm not doing. What kind of, you know, what good is that? So check that episode out, continue to listen to us and I'm out, peace.