Actions Speak louder then Words

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This is the Raising Carter Podcast and I'm your host, Ramon Weatherall Sr. in the Raising Carter Podcast, the podcast that's dedicated to fathers with sons. Fathers with sons who wanna be and wanna stay an integral and an important part of their lives and just wanna hear somebody talk about the things that they thinking about. But.

Do you realize, Dads, that the things that you do affect your son?

and on every level. And the reason why I bring that to you and talk about that today is because.

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The Lewiston mass shooter, Lewiston main, the mass shooter Robert Carr had a son.

and

What he did affected his son. What's gonna affect his son? From him?

his suicide, that just that alone, but then all, then him killing 18 other people, wounded, you know, anywhere up to 60 other people, three people still in critical condition.

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My thing is, if you just wanted to kill yourself, why did you do that? Why did you have to destroy 18 other families?

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Why did you have to wound all these other people? Why did you have to do that? It was just a selfish act. But.

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He left his son a note, some type of note. So let's listen to that. Let's try to get some of the psyche behind this because what you do, that affects your son. And this man had a son, this 40 year old man had a son.

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So.

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That doesn't, I mean, that doesn't sound like a person with this severe mental health, this psychotic person. You left a suicide note, you left bank codes so your son or whoever could get whatever they needed.

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That sounds like a person who knew what they were doing. So for all the people who want to use that as an excuse, to me, I'm a realist. That doesn't sound like somebody who, they knew what they was doing and then didn't care. Didn't care but.

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What good is that stuff to your son? What good, I mean, yeah, I mean, okay, yeah, everybody needs money to live, but you just took a crap on his life. He can't live in that city anymore. That's, he can't. What can he do there? He's gonna be known as the son of the guy who, you know, murdered all these people. What can he do there? You just took a crap on his life.

your family, everybody, they've got to deal with the brunt. They've got to deal with what you did. Like I seen the mayor at the end of, you know, the governor or whatever, at the end of the speech, he was like, Robert Card is dead.

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So is his family.

So yeah, you just took a crap on your son's life, bro. Like that's what you did. And that's what, fathers, you gotta understand. When you go out and do things, and you decide to take your own life, or you decide to do something that's gonna put you in jail forever.

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Your family's gotta deal with that. Your son, your daughter, your son's gotta deal with what you did. They've gotta go around and hear all how bad you were and you're probably just like him. Now he's gotta deal with the fact, am I like this? Well, would I do something like this? Do I have the, you know, do I have the propensity or the...

the mindset that I would do possibly do something like this.

He's got, he's got a deal with that.

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And they also, in this press conference, they also bring up.

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in these mental health situations.

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Let's listen to that.

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Basically he's saying right here that this shit was on him. This was on him. Don't blame it on his mental health. Don't blame it on guns. Don't blame it on the police. Don't blame it on nothing else. This was on him. But when are we gonna start finding out who's more likely to do this? And when we gonna start as men?

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Policing ourselves, taking accountability for ourselves. Yeah, this is on him. This is what he's saying. This is on him. This is, this is.

Don't blame it on mental health because he wasn't forcibly treated.

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Don't blame it on assault rifles. We gotta get rid of guns because I get tired of people talking about how we gotta get rid of guns. We gotta get rid of assault rifles. Well, they'll just go get another gun. They'll just get another gun and do it. If somebody wants to hurt people, they're gonna find a way to do it.

If somebody wants to hurt people, they're gonna find a way to do it. We gotta deal with the person.

Who's doing it? Why do you think you can do this?

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Like I said, he's basically telling you in...

so many words that anybody that's, you know, has common sense, anybody who just wants to.

see things clearly that you can't, we're not doing that. We're not blaming this on his mental health situation. We're not gonna let him get off. We're not gonna let him do that. And you shouldn't, and you shouldn't. If you can sit out and write a note and tell your family, you know, your son or whoever you wrote this to that.

you know, here's what you need and all that. Man, you not crazy. You not crazy. You not that crazy. You not crazy enough that you didn't know what you were doing and this is what you wanted to do and this was just plain evil. All that other stuff might be some type of, might be, you know, might be true. But the number one thing,

is that this man, Robert Carr, was just evil. He was just hateful. And that's what he wanted to do, is go and kill innocent people. That's number one. But his actions just destroyed his son's life. You say you love him, if we say we love our sons, then why do we do things that could possibly, that will, they ain't possibly could.

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destroy their lives, hurt them.

Because just committing suicide is gonna hurt your son. Even if you got a shitty relationship with him.

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it's still gonna hurt him, because he's gonna think, people, he's gonna think, well, if things go wrong for me, will I revert to doing that too? Is that the type of person that I am?

So just that alone. But if you had any type of relationship with him and you go out and you commit suicide, that's gonna destroy him. You might as well add him to the list of the people that were killed that day because a part of him died too.

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It was just a selfish act. And once you become a father, being selfish.

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You gotta kinda throw it out the window.

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You gotta throw that out the window. Yeah, if he was a single man and he went out and did this, it would be.

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I ain't gonna say understandable, but it would be something that you could see being done.

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You got family that live in that town. You got a son who lives in that town. He can't live there anymore. Why is he gonna live there anymore?

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Stop making excuses.

for people who...

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make wrong decisions. Oh, it was, you know, it was guns. It was mental health. He was a, you know, a military, no, he was just evil.

He was just evil, he was just a bad person. There are such things as that. There are bad people.

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And those people need to be dealt with, no matter what color they are, they need to be dealt with accordingly.

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and not giving all these escape goats and all this stuff and all that. No, man, you need to be handled with prejudice.

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So other people who think that this is something that they wanna do.

need to think about that again. Is this what you really want to do? Because this is what's going to happen to you.

And you better think about that. You better think about what you do dads and men, because if you care about anybody else besides yourself.

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You just, you gonna put them through hell. Like they say, when someone goes to jail, you don't go to jail alone, the people in your life go to jail too. But when you go out and you commit a crime, when you commit murder, when you kill somebody, your family is hurt and the people that you, the person, the victim or victims, their family is hurt.

all because you wanted to do something.

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We gotta start.

Being a man isn't, manhood isn't something that you just.

walk into. No, it's something that's earned. It's something that's earned.

Robert Car wasn't a man, he was a male. A man wouldn't do this. A male, a selfish male would. An evil, selfish male would do this. A man wouldn't do this.

A man, you can have prejudice, you know? Things you don't like, people you don't like.

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I don't like mint chocolate ice cream. I have a prejudice to mint chocolate ice cream. I'm not eating it. Not buying it, I'm not eating it.

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That's just life. But that doesn't mean you go out and you go out and hurt people. Or you go out, you know, if I see somebody with mint chocolate ice cream, I'm gonna slap it out of them hand and push them down and kick them. No, man.

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You know, being a man and manhood is about controlling yourself. Being able to fight through urges and anger and depression. That's what being a man is about. That's what being a father is about. So the things you do affect.

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can hurt your son. So watch what you do. If you need somebody to talk to, if you need help, if you need therapy, go get it. But don't go out doing something that's gonna.

destroy and basically fuck up their life just because you can't deal with whatever is going on with you. And that is this episode of the Raising Carter podcast. I'm your host, Ramon Weatherall Sr. If you like this podcast, what I need you to do is share it with your friends, share it with other people, share it with people who you, somebody who you think needs to hear this message, somebody you think that would appreciate this message.

would appreciate this podcast, share it with them, man. That's the only way we can keep this going. But like the hat says, I will never quit. It's the truth. I ain't quitting, I ain't stopping. And I wanna give a shout out to our sponsors. I will never quit Hatware for supporting this podcast, supporting me. And I just wanna say, watch what you do. Understand your position is very important.

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understand that you are needed, fathers in that what you do and say, your actions have a direct effect on your son. And I'm out of here, peace.